The One Illusion At The Root Of Every Love Struggle
After 35 years and 126,000 sessions, I can tell you with complete confidence: at the core of every love struggle is one illusion.
Not a fact. An illusion: The illusion that you are unworthy of love.
Not consciously. You'd never say that out loud. But subconsciously, in the place that's running the show, that story is alive. And it's quietly shaping every choice you make in love.
Here's the question I ask every client. I'm going to ask you the same one:
When a baby is born, is that baby worthy of love?
Yes.
When that same child is two years old, throwing a tantrum in the grocery store, still worthy?
Yes.
As a teenager, slamming doors, making mistakes, being impossible, still worthy?
Yes.
At thirty. At forty. At sixty.
At what point does a human being stop being worthy of love?
The only moment that happens is the moment they/you decided it. Usually so young you don't remember deciding. Usually because of a moment that had nothing to do with your worth: A parent distracted, a sibling born, a comment overheard, a love withheld.
That moment created a story. The story became a belief. The belief became a filter through which you've experienced every relationship since.
The good news: you can undecide it.
Dana, one of my clients and now an empowerment coach, shared this on the Soul Worthy Love podcast:
"I spent so many years in past relationships expecting the other person to satiate the gap, the hole I felt was there, from the passing of my mom, my parents' separation. I didn't even like being alone."
She tried to fill that hole with relationships for years. None of them worked.
Then she did something different:
"I chose to shift the dialogue, shift the narrative around being single. If I was going to be single, I was going to enjoy being single. I worked on being the most uplifted version of myself."
She didn't find someone first. She became someone who finally knew she was worthy of being found.
And then, in her words: "Everything fell into place."
Here's what I want you to hear: your essence is love. Not a hope. Not a wish. A fact.
The only thing standing between you and the love you want is a story you didn't know you were carrying. And that story can be released.
Not sure how much of this pattern is affecting you?
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Emotionally Available or Not?
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